I am NOT a Mistake.

 

*I am so grateful for this beautiful story of healing and acceptance.  She has healed my heart so much this month.  Bri helped ease my concern about my birth son that I placed and she helped open the door for more discussion and education.  

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My name is Brionne Winey, I am not a mistake and I’m loved; twice as much as the people around me (I believe). 

At the age of 20, my birth mother gave me a second chance at life.  She made the most selfless and loving decision I believe any woman who’s carried a child in their womb could make. 

My confirmation that she loves me more than ever is because I was her third baby girl.  She knew what it was like to love her girls but she loved me SO much that she wanted me to have a better life and my second life began when I went home with my adopted family 12 days after birth. 

My adoption was something my parents were pretty open with me about as a child.  My mom always told me “You didn't come from my belly but you came from my heart.”  I understood exactly what she meant and thought it was pretty cool.  Growing up, it wasn't easy.  “You don’t look like your mom or your dad” said the kids I went to school with and shockingly, at such a young age, I took on my birth mothers bravery and stood firm to say, and be proud, that I was adopted; that I was loved twice as much. 

Saying that I was adopted would frequently lead to being called a “mistake,” and honestly I have to laugh at that label because my God doesn't make those. 

Psalm 139:12-15

“12 Even the darkness will not be dark to you; the night will shine like the day, for darkness is as light to you.  13 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.  14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.  15 My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.”

 

I wasn't always so positive and appreciative of my birth mother’s bravery and often viewed it as hate and selfishness.  One day it just clicked. 

When she could have easily choose abortion she chose adoption.  The selfish and hateful thing would have been to abortion or to try raising me, knowing she couldn't give me the life an innocent child deserves. 

Not only did she chose adoption but she chose the best parents in the world for me! She hand-picked them and made sure I would be in a secure and stable home and I am forever grateful for that!!!!

Because my adoption was a closed adoption, all of the documents have been sealed and are not allowed to be opened unless both parties request for them to be; along with attending post-adoption counseling. 

I just recently have made my initiative to reunite with my birth family so now it’s a waiting game for them to do the same. 

Whether or not my birth mother chooses to reunite, I will always love her unconditionally, be thankful for her decision and maintain my understanding attitude. 

I am not a mistake.  My birth mother did not make a mistake.  She gave me life when she could have chosen death.

I just want to encourage all birth moms to know that they made the most loving and selfless decision that I believe not everyone can make. 

Although that baby isn't raised by you, you have the heart of a true mother! I will never hate my birth mother for what she did because I’m overly thankful.  

To all Adoptees, I just want to say that you should be open and understanding to decision your birth mother made for you! You are a blessing and have been given a second opportunity to live the life your birth mother only wanted you to have!

You are not a mistake! You are loved, you are chosen and you are strong!

 -Brionne Winey